• grief,  Relationships,  Separation

    Men!! Urgent Message!

      MEN! PAY URGENT ATTENTION!! This advice could save your relationship and is for the men whose partners have told them, out of the blue, that she wants a separation. Before your world explodes, consider this: By the time that a woman actually says, “I am done and want a separation”, mentally she made her decision a long before, possibly a couple of years. Here are the stages which women usually progress through: STAGE 1. They keep discussing their needs with you. BUT YOU DON’T PAY ATTENTION! OR DISMISS IT AS PMT’S OR MOODINESS. STAGE 2. They feel sad and cry often. BUT YOU STILL DON’T UNDERSTAND OR EVEN SEE…

  • Relationships,  Uncategorized

    Things that men may not know about women.

      Things that men may not know about women. (The use of men and women is used for simplicity and no offence is meant for other genders. Which ever gender you identify with, there are things here you will relate to) Advice for MEN! Please bear in mind that the following is a generalisation and of course there are the exceptions and where roles may reverse.    I defy anyone who says different genders are the same. Men and women are poles apart and whoever our maker was, did not do a great job aligning the together, for example: A man creates testosterone when he is angry – women do…

  • Affairs,  cheating,  Relationships,  Separation

    How Can I Tell That My Partner Is Having An Affair?

        ‘Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive’.                     Sir Walter Scott   PREFACE The following is purely experiential, based on 34years counselling people who are having or have had affairs. Therefore, any statistics or opinions quoted are my own.   WHAT IS AN AFFAIR? Affairs are relationships outside of marriage or intimate partnerships where an illicit, romantic or sexual relationship or passionate attachment occurs. Affairs are commonly described as; infidelity, cheating, adultery, a mistake, one-off, extramarital affairs, a fling, dalliance, affairs of the heart, an indiscretion, meaningless act and many more expressions. It is…

  • Sexual Abuse,  Uncategorized

    The After Effects of Childhood Sexual Abuse

    Child Sexual Abuse: There is no standard definition of ‘child sexual abuse’. The government within each country defines ‘child sexual abuse’ within its child protection guidelines: England “Involves forcing or enticing a child or young person to take part in sexual activities, not necessarily involving a high level of violence, whether or not the child is aware of what is happening.” “The activities may involve physical contact, including assault by penetration (for example, rape or oral sex) or non-penetrative acts such as masturbation, kissing, rubbing and touching outside of clothing. They may also include non-contact activities, such as involving children in looking at, or in the production of, sexual images, watching sexual activities,…

  • Life,  Relationships,  Separation

    Child Guidance for Divorce or Separation

     ‘How Children May React to Divorce or Separation’ Copywrite Josephine L Easterbrook. © According to Marriagefoundation.org: The UK has the highest level of family instability in the entire developed world. Our epidemic levels of family breakdown were highlighted in a recent international analysis by the Social Trends Institute. Yet as a nation, we seem to be completely unaware of what is happening to us. Our analysis at Marriage Foundation confirmed that a quarter of all our two-year-olds and nearly half, 45 per cent, of all teenagers are not living with both natural parents. In hard numbers, that equates to a fresh cohort of 300,000 children every single year who’ll conclude their GCSEs…