- Controlling Behaviour, Couples, Divorce and Seoaration, Help and Guidance, Relationships, Uncategorized
Controlling behaviour
CONTROLLING BEHAVIOUR Science or perception? One of the biggest complaints people have against each other is about being controlled. BUT, is it really controlling behaviour or is it ‘perceived’ controlling behaviour? Some will say if you feel that you are being controlled then you are, indeed, being controlled. Others will say that it is not an exact science but perception. For example, if someone has had a controlling parent they might then see ‘controlling’ behaviour in others which may or may not actually exist. Conversely, they might be so used to being controlled but they will subconsciously choose someone who has these attributes. The subconscious mind likes familiarity and…
I am not happy in our relationship … How can I communicate it?
Many ways to communicate: Speech Facial expressions Body language Eye contact What is not said Silence We pick up all kinds of messages through body language and sometimes this medium is more truthful that actual words. Body language is usually done on a sub conscious level where as speech is more often conscious. We can lie much more easily with words than we can with body language. We filter our listening: We hear things through a barrier; this barrier can be called our conditioning which evolves through our family values, norms, emotions, belief systems etc. We hear things which we want to hear or sometimes which we particularly do not…
Signs you have relationship problems
It is normal for relationships to suffer as the pressure and strains of everyday life mount. Love may disappear, replaced by resentment and anger. Each partner can view this differently depending on their own experience of family life. One may despair, while the other may view it as a temporary blip. Where a couple has attached hastily – in response to a passion, pregnancy or other need, disappointments can surface and fester when the excitement subsides. Renegotiating, with a skilled counsellor, can help build a more realistic and deeper relationship. communication breaks down sex has ended or causes problems arguments continue without resolution Anger or violent eruptions nagging depression or…
